Enchanted Circle
Do we ever come out wiser from our relationships? After a messy breakup, a chaotic divorce, or after simply being left without a decent explanation, how many times do we sit down with ourselves and think about the experience that we have accumulated during a love affair that never ended in a ‘happily ever after?’ In my experience - rarely. More often than not, we tend to repeat our relationship patterns, and as a result, we get tangled in a new emotionally abusive situation so much that we find it very difficult to see our position clearly and make a cut.
People come to fortune tellers for matters of the heart all the time. Most of these questions tend to be predictive: “Will he come around and realize that we belong together?”; “Will we end up marrying?”; “Will we finally patch things up and enjoy our life together?” Very rarely do people come seeking clarification for their current situation, or trying to find out what has brought them to this point. We easily tend to forget our agency in such matters and try to outsource the resolution elsewhere. Usually to the ‘destiny’ of tomorrow.
Here I wanted to share an example of a question that I deem to be more useful to us in such a situation. A client of mine has been stuck in a withholding relationship with a man who cannot make up his mind about his intentions with her. She asked: “Why do I find it so difficult to cut him out of my life and move on?”
Jean Noblet Tarot, as reconstructed by Jean-Claude Flornoy
It is a rather difficult situation when the giving hope of the Star is stuck in her need to pour out some more, believing that they will end up in a warm embrace. Observing the Star and the Hanged Man we have to ask ourselves what is the use of all this giving if the other person is bound and hanged, unable to receive any of it. The Devil creeps up from the bottom of the deck (as he often likes to do), saying that it is he who runs the show here in the end. Even if they end up in a warm embrace, it is simply because they are both bound to their demons. The scenery of the sunny embrace reflectively turns into the nefarious bondage under the Devil. And to quote Florence Welch: “Every demon wants his pound of flesh”.
We can only shortly conclude that the reason why she finds it so difficult to make a cut here is because of her strong attachment to a misplaced hope, and the real mechanics of this ‘addiction’ to pouring your everything under the barren gallow tree is something that she will have to investigate further. For giving only makes sense if the other party is able to receive.
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