Eyes Wide Shut - A Love Reading
If you are lucky to be in a long-standing relationship, you most probably had moments of uncertainty that called for an immediate reflection. Or in simple terms, you most probably asked yourself “How are we doing right now?” Or the old favorite: “Where will we end up?” But when these questions do pop up, experience tells me that most of us simply ignore the situation, and comfortably push any concerns under the rug, hoping to continue the smooth sail. In that case, there will come a time when you will no longer be able to ignore the situation, and you will be forced to look into the mirror of your relationship. Is it already too late?
A client wanted to know where she and her husband are in their marriage right now. Things haven’t changed in a long time, and they have difficulty reaching any consensus on house plans, their kids, and their future in general. I find this to be a particularly good question, as many of us do not (or do not want to) realize that partners can be in completely different places within the relationship, or even outside of it, all while nothing appears to be out of the ordinary.
I cast the Tarot majors.
Hand stenciled Jean Noblet Tarot Trumps, as reconstructed by Jean-Claude Flornoy.
A cold pause ensued. Sadly, the situation was painfully clear: they had already drifted apart, even though my client did not see it. While she still occupies the throne of the relationship (Empress), her husband has already turned his back on her, and his gaze is on someone completely new (The World). There is already a third in this relationship, but the client’s gaze is somewhere else. Another woman crept in, without her even realizing. The bottom card indicates that the client already felt that the situation was starting to crumble, but with the cards above it is clear they may already be headed for a divorce (Tower).
Now, some of you may ask how I came up with such a grim scenario when The World card ends the line, and the World is supposed to be a “good” card, right? Nonsense. When related to the context, what we see happening in the cards will always trump any ascribed “meaning”. The client comes to us voicing a concern, and we try to see if that concern is reflected in the cards. The Empress looks ahead, completely unaware of what the Emperor is doing, and where his gaze is directed. And when his gaze is set on a shiny, new woman portrayed in the World card, we have seen enough to know that the actors in the cards are in radically different places where their relationship is concerned. The Tower on the bottom simply confirms it, as we see two people falling on two different sides of a crumbling Tower that is their relationship.
Having said all that, the question remains: why are we often blind to the true state of our relationships? And what can we do to regain clarity in these situations? Once again I let the cards speak, and for this occasion, I chose the Lenormand deck.
Jeu Lenormand Dutch edition by Cartamundi.
We live our relationships with the naivety of a child’s heart, hoping that it will always overcome all (Child + Heart), and even if the change occurs, we still hope that the love will come back where it once was, just like the birds in spring (Stork). Too many hearts - too many desires that leave no space for clarity. In this situation, one needs to isolate themselves and take a good look from afar (Ship), instead of perpetuating the wishful projections that have nothing to do with the present moment (Moon).
With that being said, may your sights be forever uncrossed from all delusion.
If you wish to gain clarity on your place within a relationship, you can book a Small Reading through the Readings page, or feel free to contact me and discuss the best reading option for you.
