Lack of Reciprocity
“My sister abandoned me once again,” a client states in a bitter and disappointed tone. I gathered that this is a recurring issue, which the client confirmed. She wanted to know what is the core issue in their relationship, since the client’s sister has an easy time discarding my client from her life, only to come back and repeat the process all over again.
Soprafino Tarot, reproduced my Il Meneghello.
“A lot of taking yet no giving back,” I concluded. “It is clear that your sister comes to you torn and needing help so you can pour your blessings at her feet. All repaired and refreshed, she goes back to her circle of friends. A circle that you do not belong to. She got what she needed, and off she went, once you served your purpose.” The client nodded and pointed to the Lovers card: “Yes, this is her circle of fancy friends who are there to make her life glamorous. But when she needs real support, she comes back to me.”
Sadly, this is a common occurrence in many relationships. We all had a person in our life who was only there to serve their ends, and who lacked empathy to ever ask if we needed support. But when it is a sibling or a parent, it makes the situation that much more complicated.
“What is the best way to proceed in such a situation?” my client wanted to know. “Accept and detach” was the only advice that I could give, as the Justice card fell next to the Fool. Considering how many prominent psychologists claim that narcissistic people are often not capable of profound change that involves the development of empathy (lest they try to learn it, which remains a learned empathy), one can only accept the way things are and detach from the toxic relation.
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